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Today I fucked up…

I was texting this woman I matched with on Tinder. It was a nice converstation between us that was going well. Until I fucked up… Maybe its simply not to be, and she clicked with someone else.

Last weekend I was browsing Spotify for new music and I find this song:

… Without doing much research about the song.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alice%27s_Restaurant

Just quickly browsing the wikipedia article has these gems at the top: “Characteristics: Guthrie refers to the incident as a “massacree“, a colloquialism originating in the Ozark Mountains^[5] that describes “an event so wildly and improbably and baroquely messed up that the results are almost impossible to believe”. It is a corruption of the word massacre, but carries a much lighter and more sarcastic connotation, rather than describing anything involving actual death.^[6]“

Prologue: Guthrie explains that his friend Alice owns a restaurant, but adds that “Alice’s Restaurant” is the name of the song, not the business. He then sings the chorus, which is in the form of a jingle for the restaurant, beginning “You can get anything you want at Alice’s restaurant”, and continuing with directions to it.

Did I just imply that she’s so fucked up, it’s impossible to believe? And “you can get anything you want from her? Aka a slut? What the fuck did I do? Well, that and not respond for 5 days. No wonder she took her picture off her whatsapp profile…

This was the worst choice of song to suggest to someone, along with the awful shit I said. I hope I didn’t harass her! Fuck. I fucked up.

Oof… I can’t believe I said something so stupid… And now I can’t message her to apologize for being an asshole!

She unmatched me on Tinder. Boy I fucked up.

So, I will apologize here. Hopefully I can teach someone else not to be an asshole online over text! And if you make a mistake, apologize immediately. Dear Match from Tinder, I am so sorry for what I said on {day happened} I regret sending those last __ messages. I’m sorry. Maybe you will never read this, but I am so sorry. I won’t contact you again, and went ahead and deleted your info on Whatsapp. I apologize for being your first impression of a person on Tinder. 😑

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I know that dating is a journey, and that failure is the way to grow, but so soon sucks. Hopefully this is nothing. Merely incompatibility.

Thankfully, I still have 1 match I’m taking to. I hope it continues to go well!

Happy Thanksgiving!

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Oh, so this is what happened… 😬 Thanks Zoewiezoe!:

1. 

   SO glad to hear you’re feeling better!! 💜

2. 

   Thank you Olivia. I was definitely in a dark place a couple of days ago and feeling normal again. This…

3. 

   Feeling trapped sucks – I know because I’ve had some experience with that too. But you know the cognitive behavioral…

4. 

   Thanks for visiting and for the birthday wishes! It truly is all those little moments with people that matter as…

5. 

   Thank you Al. This is dead on to what I was in a couple of days ago. Mired in resistance.…

Damn, I was ghosted… Guess this is karma for doing this to someone before… And won’t do again.:

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