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Tinder saga part 1: Did I mess up?

Today I fucked up…

I was texting this woman I matched with on Tinder. It was a nice converstation between us that was going well. Until I fucked up… Maybe its simply not to be, and she clicked with someone else.

Last weekend I was browsing Spotify for new music and I find this song:

… Without doing much research about the song.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alice%27s_Restaurant

Just quickly browsing the wikipedia article has these gems at the top: “Characteristics: Guthrie refers to the incident as a “massacree“, a colloquialism originating in the Ozark Mountains[5] that describes “an event so wildly and improbably and baroquely messed up that the results are almost impossible to believe”. It is a corruption of the word massacre, but carries a much lighter and more sarcastic connotation, rather than describing anything involving actual death.[6]“

Prologue: Guthrie explains that his friend Alice owns a restaurant, but adds that “Alice’s Restaurant” is the name of the song, not the business. He then sings the chorus, which is in the form of a jingle for the restaurant, beginning “You can get anything you want at Alice’s restaurant”, and continuing with directions to it.

I hope this is just anxiety!

Did I just imply that she’s so fucked up, it’s impossible to believe? And “you can get anything you want from her? Aka a slut? What the fuck did I do? Well, that and not respond for 5 days. No wonder she took her picture off her whatsapp profile…

This was the worst choice of song to suggest to someone, along with the awful shit I said. I hope I didn’t harass her! Fuck. I fucked up.

Oof… I can’t believe I said something so stupid… And now I can’t message her to apologize for being an asshole!

She unmatched me on Tinder. Boy I fucked up.

So, I will apologize here. Hopefully I can teach someone else not to be an asshole online over text! And if you make a mistake, apologize immediately. Dear Match from Tinder, I am so sorry for what I said on {day happened} I regret sending those last __ messages. I’m sorry. Maybe you will never read this, but I am so sorry. I won’t contact you again, and went ahead and deleted your info on Whatsapp. I apologize for being your first impression of a person on Tinder. 😑

I know that dating is a journey, and that failure is the way to grow, but so soon sucks. Hopefully this is nothing. Merely incompatibility.

Thankfully, I still have 1 match I’m taking to. I hope it continues to go well!

Happy Thanksgiving!

Oh, so this is what happened… 😬 Thanks Zoewiezoe!:

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Damn, I was ghosted… Guess this is karma for doing this to someone before… And won’t do again.:

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9 responses to “Tinder saga part 1: Did I mess up?”

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    olivia

    Hey. Dating apps are brutal. Alice’s Restaurant is a wonderful song – it’s my Thanksgiving theme song and I almost posted it on my blog today. “You can get anything you want at Alice’s Restaurant “ does not imply that Alice is a slut, and in the last verse he says that then then adds “”Cepting Alice.” I don’t know what she thought, but I promise you that’s not even in the offensive ballpark. You have no idea.

    Good for you for hanging in there.

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      olivia

      I mean, you have no idea how offensive people can be on tinder, you are light years away from that.

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        TheunknownReilly

        I guess I’m catastrophizing a bit because she was the first real person I had a long conversation with on there. Thanks for the support! 🙂

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        olivia

        Omg we all do that on dating apps. I get it. And yes, self-compassion would be good… 😊

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      TheunknownReilly

      Thanks. I guess the covid isolation is getting to me. Gotta practice self compassion.

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    Zoewiezoe

    If someone blocks you (thats what happens when they ‘take down their WhatsApp pic’ just fyi) in offense over a song…you might wanna consider that they probably have scarily long toes and aren’t the types of people you need around you.

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      TheunknownReilly

      Hm, I didn’t know I was more comfortable being blocked than imagining long gnarly toes… Her pictures just coincidentally had her feet cropped out or pointed away from the camera… 😐 Anyway, thanks for the supportive comment!

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  3. A Dissociated Mind Avatar
    A Dissociated Mind

    We all make mistakes. The important thing is owning up to them and learning from them, which you did. 💜

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    1. TheunknownReilly Avatar
      TheunknownReilly

      Thanks! I’m a work in progress.

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