I need help moving out.
I’m not sure who to ask for help.
I’m age 36 and live with my mother. It’s far past time that I move out, and I need help. I can’t stand living in the same house I grew up in and need my own place to live by myself.
I will miss our family cat Lucy dearly. She snuggles next to me in bed almost every night. It will be heartbreaking, and I’m sure Lucy will never forgive me. Im sure that Coco will also miss my mother, along with Lucy.
Living with my mom drives me crazy. I need my own physical space. While our relationship is okay, I feel it would be much better for me to have space. We’re different people at different times in life.
A big reason I have struggled with dating is that I feel embarrassed that I live with my mother as an adult man. She sees me as her child first and an adult second. Living at home, ill never feel like an adult man.
I have gotten much better at asserting myself, communicating my needs, and setting boundaries. My mother has gotten better at accepting these and improving herself too.
There are other reasons too, but I only feel comfortable discussing them with my therapist.
However, this is not my house. I don’t feel comfortable living here. I feel trapped in a psychological prison, constantly reminded of the past.
I need a fresh start living on my own, without roommates, with my cat Coco.
Taking this step is something I have to do to continue healing. It scares me simultaneously because I’ll have to rely solely on myself. But, I won’t feel ashamed to bring a woman home. I’ll feel the freedom to bring friends over in my space without having to worry that my mom will embarrass me or nitpick me about how I’m doing something wrong, like what happened the last time I invited friends over in early 2020.
This will be difficult to find a place to rent on my budget since Seattle is an expensive place to live. Not impossible.
I need to live my truth.
This is entirely normal and means that you continue to grow. I think it’s awesome! Yes, ya do need to move. Yes you can. This will be fraught with much uncomfortableness and great joy. You pay the price. You reap the results. Love your Mom dearly but you both probably need your own space. Go for it! Do not look back. Yesterday is gone. Build that life. I did the same at 17 to go into service and then again at 21 when I got out of the military and did so in a big way.
On two wheels with all my belongings in a single backpack and rode across the country to start again so telling ya it can be done. Excited for ya. Build that adventure!
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Thanks Ken! I appreciate the insight and support!