Adjusting Boundaries Outside-In ☯️
Boundaries:
Examples of how to set boundaries: http://www.recoveryeducationnetwork.org/uploads/9/6/6/3/96633012/boundary_setting_tips__1_.pdf
“What is a boundary?
A boundary is an invisible line you draw around yourself to identify what is acceptable behavior, and what is unacceptable behavior. The beauty of boundaries is that they are fluid and ever-evolving; for example, looser limits around extending yourself to others is easier when you’re younger and childless. As you age and gain insight, you’ll get a quicker read on energy vampires and narcissists.
Some people love boundaries because they represent structure, order, and rules. Others see limits as an unyielding set of laws where there are no gray areas, only black and white. A critical part of a healthy psyche is deciding on the right tension for your life. Psychological distress results from overly rigid or overly loose limits.“
From psychologytoday.com Source
External boundaries:
My first relationship with my girlfriend is going well.
Due to the coronavirus pandemic, it’s a long distance relationship.
I’m waiting for her response to my last text. I communicated my needs to her.
I need communication, clarity, and feedback for a healthy relationship.
So far, so good. We’ve accepted each other’s boundaries so far. I hope this goes well.
After this, time to setup a distance with mask date!
Online interaction only goes so far… And I need in person quality time.
Trust yourself.
Believe in the best.
Be yourself.
You got this.
I don’t want a long distance relationship.
I wonder that I’m a fool in love? Guess that’s what people mean when they say being in love makes you crazy.
I rather not wait until we get the covid vaccine. Is this too fast for a new relationship? Like, you want to see each other at least once a week right? Ah the joys of exploring a new love while getting to know each other.
Damn you Covid-19… I finally meet my first girlfriend and it’s not safe to visit.
It’s the right thing to do- to stay at home- but, man this is torture. I’m tired of being patient.
I hope I’m not clingy.
I hope I’m not oversharing…
Learning on the fly.
Internal Boundaries
Today I went back and edited a couple months of blog posts. I’ve been really bad about editing posts lately. A combination of little details such as adding a separation bar for clarity, adding the end slate with an email subscriber box, section headers to help search results, and adding tags/categories.
I’m finding my writers legs. It’s a tough balance. If I want to continue growing as a writer, and as a blogger, the next step to growth is to improve my revision and editing skills. Writing is rewriting. I can’t achieve goals without being aware of the quality of work I’ve done. These days I have all the time in the world. I feel like I’m trapped in a pandemic hamster wheel.
I feel ashamed of how lazy I’ve been. My days are turning into: wake up around 9am, shower, dress, eat, sit down at my PC and be on the computer/phone all day. Weekdays I’m limited to about 4 hours for seeking work. There’s only so many job openings and cover letters I can send before I run out. One day a week, I’ve had further job help with a job councilor through Sound Mental Health, where I get help for my issues. The rest of the day is a mix of watching futurama or forensic files for the 6th time because it’s soothing. My other activities are on the computer too, either relationship videos on YouTube, or audiobooks on Audible. It’s been this way for months. I wish I could go to places for activities. I exercise better with people in classes or sports.
Ugh, I hate being bored, but too exhausted from the pandemic blues to better myself.
I need to make a small adjustment to my daily routine.
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